The P*rn Trap: How It’s Ruining Your Real Intimacy ft. Susan Morgan Taylor

Have you ever asked yourself:

• “Why does sex feel confusing or frustrating in my long-term relationship?”
• “How do I deal with mismatched desire or feelings of rejection?”
• “Is there a way to bring passion back into our marriage beyond tricks or performance?”

If sex and intimacy have become a perplexing part of your long-term relationship, get ready for a revolutionary reframe that will change how you approach connection.

Today, Larry Hagner sits down with Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, a renowned somatic sex therapist, creator of the transformational Pleasure Keys Retreats, and host of the popular Sex Talk Café Podcast. 

She has helped hundreds of couples deepen intimate connection and create mutually satisfying sex and intimacy for the long term, and she’s here to challenge the myth that passion is just about performance or “finding the right move.”

Susan Morgan Taylor reveals that true intimacy begins with presence: showing up, tuning in, and being fully responsible for your own pleasure and desires. She explains that when there’s been a “drift” in your marriage, it’s critical to slow down, get curious, and ask not just what you want, but who it’s for. 

So many couples mistakenly go through the motions, assuming they know what pleases the other and settling for mediocre connection. The profound truth? Each partner is wired uniquely—and without ongoing, honest conversation, you can drift miles apart.

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In this revolutionary conversation, we dig into:

1. Presence Over Performance: Why true intimacy starts with showing up, tuning in, and owning your own pleasure, moving beyond tricks or external validation.
2. The Danger of the “Drift”: How couples unknowingly settle for mediocre connection by assuming they know what pleases their partner without ongoing, honest conversation.
3. Safety as the Ultimate Aphrodisiac: Why creating an environment where your partner can relax—free from pressure, kids bursting in, or a million distractions—is crucial for their willingness to lean in.
4. Beyond Abs or Grand Gestures: The profound truth that genuine trust and moment-to-moment presence are the real keys to opening both her heart and body.
5. Playful, Spacious, Non-Transactional Connection: How to bring curiosity, experimentation, and ownership back into your intimate relationship, even in uncomfortable moments.

If you’re ready to become not just a better lover, but a better man, this episode is your playbook for ditching resentment, reigniting real desire, and creating a marriage that’s thriving, not just surviving.

Here’s what research and observation highlight about sexual intimacy in long-term relationships:

• Couples who prioritize emotional safety and open communication about sex report a 35% higher level of sexual satisfaction.
• Mismatched desire is a common challenge impacting over 30% of couples, but effective communication strategies can significantly improve outcomes.
• The consistent practice of mindful presence during intimate moments is linked to a 25% increase in shared pleasure and deeper connection.

Larry’s Takeaways

1. Intimacy starts with showing up fully.
2. Create an environment free from pressure.
3. Take responsibility for your desire and experience.

What You’ll Learn

00:00 Introduction

09:31 Self-Realization Sparks Career Path

11:58 Empowerment Through Self-Responsibility in Relationships

16:43 Noticing and Negotiating Desires

24:27 Understanding Women’s Desires

27:18 Novelty Boosts Arousal in Relationships

33:16 Marriage: Navigating Relationship Challenges

38:13 Negotiating Non-Monogamy Options

45:46 Friend-Zoning and Control Dynamics

51:43 Prioritizing Presence Over Orgasm

57:09 Trust Through Presence

01:01:43 Mindful Presence in Relationships

01:06:58 Empathy and Relationship Polarity

01:10:51 Pleasure Keys Guide & Couples Retreats

01:14:28 Choosing Legacy Over Average

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